Thursday, March 31, 2005

Home Sweet Home?

Thought for today: "Home sweet Home"

After returning from a 5 day vacation, my family and I returned home yesterday. We had a great time full of fun and family celebrations. It's always great to see family members. We live far away from our families, and I always wonder if it's really the best thing.

Each time that I leave my family, no matter how long I spend with them (days or weeks), I always feel a sense of emptiness that I can't explain. I have been living far away for over 15 years, so I don't understand why I still have this feeling even though I am looking forward to returning home. It usually takes me a few days, and then I'm okay.

These next few days will be spent getting things in order to return to our normal routines next week.

Wednesday, March 23, 2005

Do you sabotage your homeschool?

I am still in the process of planning for our next school year. I came across this information last year. It really makes me think about how I approach "schooling" and a few areas that I fall short in that could really help my days go smoother. I thought that I would share it:

Do You Sabotage Your Homeschool? If you answer “no” to one of the questions below, you might consider if this is an area that is sabotaging your homeschool. All families are different, so what works for one may not work for another. At the same time, most of what is compiled in this handout comes straight from homeschool moms and their experiences. Have an open mind and ask yourself, “Do *I* sabotage *my* homeschool?”
Do you have children that know what you expect, and show you respect? (Bad attitudes ring the death toll for a happy homeschooling atmosphere.)If they were to follow your example, would your children be learning to manage their time wisely? Most of the time

Do you discipline yourself so that you are not sidetracked by the computer in the morning? (You know… “I’m just going to quickly check my e-mail this morning...” and then school starts an hour late with a guilt ridden, grumpy mom. Not a pretty sight! ) EEEK!

Do you use the answering machine during school time? (Even if you are not helping a student right at that moment, you will not be as available if you are chatting on the phone. You might also be distracting them if the students are younger.) NO, I stick to this one

Do you have some sort of lesson plan? (If you shoot at nothing, you will always hit it! “Winging it” can be so stressful, and usually does not produce what a well thought out plan can generate.) Yes, I love checking things off.

Do you look over your lessons ahead of time? (If you try to prepare materials while the student is sitting there, you will totally lose their attention, as well as waste their time.) Not always

Do you have all school supplies ready to use? (i.e. pencils sharpened, paper well stocked, everything in a special place so that it’s accessible) Yes

Do you have supplies ready for projects and reports? (Don’t wait to visit the library the day the unit begins.)Most of the time

Do you have realistic plans for the day? (Don’t over burden yourself, or your children, with “too much to do, and not enough time”.)Are you careful to plan ahead for the unexpected? (Don’t let things like your monthly cycle, company, events, etc., take you off guard.) Sometimes I am guilty for overscheduling. This is definitely an area that I need to work on.

Can you be flexible, but not too flexible? (There is a necessary balance!)Are you careful not to make appointments during school hours? (doctor, hair, friends, etc.) Allowing visitors during school hours can also become very disruptive to quality school time. I have gotten better over the years at learning to be flexible ( I have an infant!)

Do you have a regular bedtime, and rising time, for you and the children?Are you eating, and feeding your family, a well-balanced diet for health and energy. Mostly

Do you have a regular time to start school? Yes

Are you careful about excessive outside activities (soccer, ballet, karate, art class, etc.)? (Running from one activity to another eats up valuable “home time”, and will burnout kids as well as mom. The activity might be legitimate, but is it necessary? ) I need to work on this one. I 'v e gotten burned out with all the running and having a little one. This will change for next year.

Are *you* over committed to outside activities? (Learn to say, “No”! Others should not have priority over your family and homeschool.) No

Do you have a regular schedule for household duties? (Everything always runs smoother with a plan.)
Yes.
Is your house clutter free? Working on it (books!)

Do you have your children help with household duties? (Training and education should not just be in academics. All children can do chores that are appropriate to their ages.) Yes, but could do more

Are your curriculum choices stable? (Jumping from one curriculum to another can be costly. Do not feel the need to purchase every new curriculum on the market. Careful thought and research can really pay off in the end. Also, try to find some who is using the program you are interested in. Ask for their input, and if you can come and take a look at it first hand.) Pretty stable

Are you enjoying the learning process? (Sometimes we can lose sight of the joys of homeschooling because we become obsessive with finishing a certain amount of workpages, etc.) Yes, Yes, Yes!

Do you ask your husband for his input on school issues? (Disregarding your husband in matters of homeschooling is like shooting yourself in the foot. Don’t forget, he loves those kids, too.) Not as much as I should.

Do you let other moms decide much of the above for your family rather than your husband and you? NO

Do you have a clear vision for what you want to accomplish in your homeschool? Yes

Tuesday, March 22, 2005

Tragedies..

Scripture of the day: "Dear Children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and truth"
~ 1 John 3:18

My heart is saddened this morning.... My thoughts and prayers are with the parents, community and family members of those in Bimidji, Minnesota. How sad it is to hear of the shootings spurred by a high schooler. I can't imagine what this community is feeling. It brings tears to my eyes....

I am still in prayer for Terri Schiavo's family, as they are enduring the painful process of watching their daughter fade away.....

In this life we can not take one moment for granted....

I don't have many words this morning..

I will give many hugs today.... I will call those I love today.....and let them know that I love them...

Saturday, March 19, 2005

Peace

Scripture for today: "The Lord will give strength unto his people; the Lord will bless his people with peace." - Psalms 29:11


Why am I up at 6 am on a Saturday morning?????? (Actually, I've been up since five, read a few chapters in a history book that my daughter will start in a couple of weeks, gave my little one a bottle, and had my first cup of coffee) --- Because, sometimes is seems that it's the only time I can have a little uninterrupted peace.

Peace. What is peace? One of the definitions is: Inner contentment; serenity: Hmmmm. It seems as though this comes from within not related to outside factors. (Okay, Lord. I get it.)

Well, as for "schooling" here. The weeks party is over! :-) All the shopping trips, and wasting time is over. My dd has completed her standardized testing this week. She enjoyed seeing her old friends and spending time with them. On Monday, it's back to homeschool life for three days before our spring break trip.

The weather reports states that we will have a beautiful weekend--60's & 70's. My kind of weather. I am going to enjoy the weekend with my family and focus on inner peace. :-) Shalom.
Scripture for today: "The Lord will give strength unto his people; the Lord will bless his people with peace." - Psalms 29:11


Why am I up at 6 am on a Saturday morning?????? (Actually, I've been up since five, read a few chapters in a history book that my daughter will start in a couple of weeks, gave my little one a bottle, and had my first cup of coffee) --- Because, sometimes is seems that it's the only time I can have a little uninterrupted peace.

Peace. What is peace? One of the definitions is: Inner contentment; serenity: Hmmmm. It seems as though this comes from within not related to outside factors. (Okay, Lord. I get it.)

Well, as for "schooling" here. The weeks party is over! :-) All the shopping trips, and wasting time is over. My dd has completed her standardized testing this week. She enjoyed seeing her old friends and spending time with them. On Monday, it's back to homeschool life for three days before our spring break trip.

The weather reports states that we will have a beautiful weekend--60's & 70's. My kind of weather. I am going to enjoy the weekend with my family and focus on inner peace. :-) Shalom.

Thursday, March 17, 2005

Rainy Days.......

Quote for the day: Be still, sad heart, and cease repining; Behind the clouds the sun is shining; Thy fate is the common fate of all, Into each life some rain must fall, Some days must be dark and dreary. Author: Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


It's cold and wet here in our neck of the woods. It's one of those days where you just want to curl up and nap ALL day. Unfortunately, that can't happen today-- I have too many things to do.

Yesterday, my daughter began softball practice--In the rain!! Ugh! It's amazing though--the kids love it. Rain and all!

I'm short on words today, but heavy in thought. My husband and I are contemplating on moving. We have outgrown our home. The question is location, location, location--can we agree?

Wednesday, March 16, 2005

Hmmm.. The School Bus?

Quote for today:" Public schools are the nurseries of all vice and immorality. "
Henry Fielding (1707-1754) English novelist, dramatist



This week has been an interesting one. My daughter has been taking her annual standardized testing this week. (It's required in our state.) Every year, she returns to her former private school for a week of testing with her grade level. She spends the mornings there and she gets to see her old friends.

Each year I usually take this time to do some extra things ie, spring cleaning, painting etc. This year I haven't done any of those things. I have been spending the mornings with my infant and "hanging out in the sun and having fun!" My little one and I have been hitting the craft stores, and the mall. :-)-- Is this what I did when my daughter was in traditional school?-----Yes! Spend too much money!

I must confess, as I drove around town this week and watched the school buses drive around with the kids, --the idea surely crossed my mind. If she was in school all day I could.........

Then the Lord nudged me. (He does that you know) --As if to say "Snap out of it Mikki!" "Back to earth" "Remember why you are homeschooling, it's definately not about you!" (GULP!)

Okay.. Okay.. I truly believe in how my husband and I have chosen to educate our children. Educating them at home has been a blessing, and we can see some of those fruits. However, I must confess-- for that moment, the school bus looked pretty good!

Monday, March 14, 2005

Mothering

Scripture for today: "Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them." ~Deuteronomy 4:9

What an awesome calling we have as mothers. Sometimes is seems a little overwhelming. Thank God for his faithfulness. He never leaves us or forsakes us, and He gives us the strength to go on.

My preteeen daughter is growing quickly and beautifully. Inside and out. :-) I was recently looking at some of her pictures when she was a baby and a toddler, and boy those years have passed almost as a blink of an eye. Before you know it, she will be off to college. (Super Gulp!)

As you know, I also have an infant, who has truly brought additional excitement and joy to our home over the past few months. The gift of life is soooo precious. The Lord has blessed me with two angels.

What a gift He has given us,
with this precious thing called life.
It is such a special blessing,
being a mother and a wife.

~Mikki

On Mothering: I highly recommend The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson.

Thursday, March 10, 2005

Don't give up..

Scripture for today: "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. ~ Galatians 6:9


How many time have you felt like giving up or quitting homeschooling? Me~ A lot!

Though I know that homeschooling our children is the best for our family until God directs us otherwise, there have been days when I have wanted to quit:
1. One day a month when PMS is raging
2. Every February in the midst of the winter

The times that encourage me to continue homeschooling far outway the previously mentioned:
1. When we just sit and discuss a spiritual/biblical issue uninterupted
2. When my daughter and I have incredible laughing moments (almost daily)
3. When my daughter gets engrossed in a book for hours
4. When my dd makes and educational connection (aha moment!)
5. When we take family vacations any time of the year :-)
6. When I see spiritual/emotional growth in my daughter
7. 9/11
8. The daily news: child abductions, school bomb threats, school bus accidents...

I'm sure that I can name plenty more... Be encouraged!



Don't Quit
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh

When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest, you must - but don't you quit
Life is queer with its twists and turns
As everyone of us sometimes learns

And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out
Don't give up, though the pace seems slow
You might succeed with another blow

Success is failure turned inside out, the silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit
It's when things seem worst, That you MUST NOT QUIT!

(Author Unknown)

Wednesday, March 09, 2005

Kind words..

Quote for today: "Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless" ~ Mother Theresa

Tuesday, March 08, 2005

How our children teach us..

Quote for today: "Children are unpredictable. You never know what inconsistency they're going to catch you in next." ~Franklin P. Jones

Now this is a quote that I can relate to! Throughout this journey of homeschooling my daughter, I have frequently encountered my inconsistencies being noticed.

As parents, I think that we unintentionally play this "game" for lack of better words, with our children. Let me give you an example.

When my daughter was in traditional school, I did my daily activities at home, volunteered at her school, went to the gym etc. The days that I didn't feel so great for whatever reason (pms, stress, etc), I could drop her off at school with a smile-- mope through a day(not all days of course), eat chocolate/soda during pms days etc. :-) I'd pick her up from school with a smile and the rest of the evening was full of the normal activities. She didn't always see how I really lived, behaved or thought during those few hours in the evening.

However, as our children get older, and because we homeschool them, they are with us almost all of the time.---OUR TRUE SELVES COME THROUGH!!! What an eye opener! My daughter (not knowing of course) has shown me so many things about myself, that I was unaware of. It has really put me to the test to truly live the life that I am teaching her to live.

I truly thank God for giving my husband and I the insight to homeschool our daughter. I knew that she would get a better education, but I was unaware as to how much I would grow in the process.

Monday, March 07, 2005

Scripture for today: " Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.. Proverbs 31: 11-12


Wow, I can't believe it's been 5 days since I've blogged. We have had a busy weekend with activities. Life just happens.

Well, this morning I a woke up bright and early to get the week started on the right foot. 515am. I tried to blog but had a few difficulties trying to add pictures to my blog. For any of you tech savvy individuals, I would appreciated any help. I tried to add the appropriate tag to my template as suggested by blogger, but I couldn't seem to get it to work.

It's mid day and we are completing the assignments that are in my lesson plan book. It makes me happy when I can check off things that have been completed. :-)

It's lunch time.... Baby crying.. Will blog more tonight....

Wednesday, March 02, 2005

The love of books...

Quote for today: "Books are the liberated spirits of men" --Mark Twain

Ahhhh! Books... I must admit that I am a self-proclaimed bibliophile. I truly enjoy books, andI have the books to prove it. I am constantly trying tofind ways to make room for my varied collection. That being said, I can spend hours at Borders, Barnes & Noble, or Books-A-Million at any given time. And don't forget the precious library.

Reading relaxes me. I also enjoy pursuing knowledge about a topic that interests me. However, I must admit that I don't always read a book from cover to cover. Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested.--Frances Bacon.

I am currently reading The Good Earth by Pearl Buck and rereading The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson. I have Jane Eyre by my bedside but have not began to read it yet.

I have passed this passion on to my 10 yr old. She is currently reading The Giver and The Little House on the Prairie (for history). She enjoys fiction, especially mysteries. She also keeps a stack next to her bed that she reads at night.

Which book has most inspired your life?

Here are a few quotes about books:

I cannot live without books. Thomas Jefferson

The book to read is not the one which thinks for you, but the one which makes you think. James McCosh

I must say that I find television very educational. The minute somebody turns it on, I go to the library and read a book. Groucho Marx

Anyone who has a library and a garden wants for nothing. Cicero

Reading is a basic tool in the living of a good life. Mortimer J. Adler

He who destroys a good book kills reason itself. John Milton

Be as careful of the books you read, as of the company you keep, for your habits and character will be as much influenced by the former as the latter. Paxton Hood

Except a living man, there is nothing more wonderful than a book. Charles Kingsley

To acquire the habit of reading is to construct for yourself a refuge from almost all of the miseries of life. W. Somerset Maugham

Never read a book through merely because you have begun it. John Witherspoon